"HEART CONDITIONS!"
- Sunshine Crawford
- Feb 15
- 50 min read
Updated: Mar 13
'IS YOUR HEART LIGHT ON?'
"Light is sown for the righteous and gladness for the upright in heart." (Psalm 97:11)
Allowing the Light of God to fill your Heart places you upon a solid foundation for Love, Faith, Strength and Righteousness to dwell and thrive; with gladness overflowing that will break forth as the Morning Sun itself and making your Heart Merry. This Light serves as a lamp unto your feet to guide you upon your Path that you may Speak and Live your Truths; making your way Prosperous in all that you set out to do, for the light is your Pillar of Strength and will sustain you, when times are turbulent and when faced with trials and tribulations. Light sown within will illuminate you throughout your entire being and radiate outwardly causing a profound impact upon All who gaze upon your light. A light that has the potential to transfer from Heart to Heart, dispelling the shadowed parts of ourselves and dismantle the power it holds, which prevents us from obtaining our greatest possible version of self. The Light enables us to live upright and pleasing unto God; it guides our steps upon the straight and narrow way, that leads to Abundant Life. Having our Heart filled with Light liberates and fills us with Joy, Peace and Happiness, causing us to be Lighthearted and Cheerful. God is the Source of our light for through him is the Path of Life; in his Prescence is fullness of Joy and at your right hand will be Pleasures for evermore. This means that all things will be Agreeable, Pleasant, Delightful, Full of Beauty, Sweet and Lovely concerning you. When your Heart is full of Light, you are able to see and observe with clarity and your thinking and understanding is clearer. Therefore, your mind and heart are more in alignment, which assists you in making wiser choices. You are able to demonstrate Self-love, Love for Others, exemplify Integrity, Honesty and Virtue because your Heart is Upright and Pure.
"The Heart is a Beautiful thing. It Loves, It Hopes, It Endures, It Forgives, It Sees, It Feels. Live your life through your Heart and experience the most beautiful moments of your life. Let your Heart Glow and Shine, let it Love, let it Smile, let it Keep Everything that's Precious to you together."
~ Sageena Rana ~
THE HEART SYMBOL
The Heart Symbol is used to express the idea of the "Heart," in a symbolic sense; the symbol is often used to represent the Center of Emotions, Affections and Love, especially Romantic Love. The Heart Symbol has been around for nearly 800 years which is actually an image of two human hearts fused together as one, forming the popular image of the heart shape symbol used to represent LOVE. So, the Heart Symbol is two hearts joined together to create one heart. When two people fall in Love, they begin to form an energetic bond in which their feelings and emotions become deeply involved. This is the Fusing of the two Hearts because they have formed a connection that appears to Vibrating on the same Frequency. I say appears because sometimes one Party may be more emotional invested than the other and then you find out that their feelings for you isn't mutual; or whatever the reasons are that it just didn't work out. However, when a breakup occurs and there are deep feelings involved, it can cause a Heartbreak and whatever bonding that had formed has now diminished. Unfortunately, for one of them, this breakdown has formed what we know as a Broken Heart, and this expresses the idea of the "Broken Heart Symbol."
THE ESSENSE OF THE HEART
The Heart is the Seat of our Emotions and also the Throne for which our Soul occupies; it is the most delicate and fragile part of our whole being. The Heart is the only organ that we refer to as being 'Broken', when it has been disappointed, hurt, wounded or betrayed. No one ever says, " I have broken lungs, I, have a broken stomach or I have broken kidneys." That's because when our Heart has been Struck, it touches the deepest, most inner parts of our feelings and emotions, greatly impacting the Soul. Reason being is that our Soul is like a sponge and he or she absorbs whatever is transmitted within our emotional field, whether Good or Bad. This broken state sometimes causing damages that takes years to Heal and often times the Healing never occurs. This will cause an individual to Close up their Heart, shutting down all feeling and emotions, with the end results of a Heart that is Stone Cold. When your Heart has been affected to this degree, the Soul also suffers because now they have nothing beneficial within you to draw from. Remaining in this state will only cause both you and your Soul to suffer; you must make a conscious effort to Heal, or you will be damned forever, you and your Soul.
Although the Heart is the most Fragile part of our existence, it can also be the strongest; when we build up our Hearts, it can demonstrate strength uncomprehensive to our human understanding. The Heart can survive and overcome the most difficult storms of life that we may encounter; strength, determination and zeal is built within the Heart when we gird up our Power which dwells within. When you push your Heart past the circumstances surround you, your Soul will step in to assist and work with you to overcome any and all obstacles you may be facing. When consistent efforts are put forth to improve your situation, then the Spirits steps in and now you're functioning as a three-way team unified as One Force.
There's a scene in the "Ray" movie, when he's a young boy and he begins to go blind and he stumbles and fall down onto the kitchen floor. He then yells for his mama and she starts towards him, then she pauses because she realizes that he needs to learn how to make it on his own without her assistance. So, she stands watching him with tears in her eyes as he crawls around on the floor trying to feel his way around. Although he is going blind, he quickly realizes that he must rely on his hearing; he hears people chatting loudly on the outside and the sounds of the bottles jingling strung from a tree in front of their house. Then he hears a cricket nearby on the floor and he grabs and catches it. Afterwards, he raises up towards his mama and says, "I can hear you to mama." She sighs in relief with tears running down her face because that was the moment she knew that he was gonna be just fine. But, don't think for one moment that if he was ever in danger that she wouldn't jumped to his rescue like Wonder Woman, but she had to allow him to try on his own first; otherwise, she would be crippling him to always depend on someone else to make it through life.
Likewise, God will see us stumbling, but he doesn't step in because he's watching to see what we're going to do first. When he sees us striving to do better, then he steps in when we need him to. Regardless of what your circumstances are or the conditions surrounding you. If you are in a difficult situation with no one to support you or depend upon, know that if you totally trust in God to be with you, there is nothing that you won't be able to overcome. On the other hand, if all you can do is sit around and feel sorry for yourself or become consumed in your ego, holding on to past hurts and pains, then you will get nowhere. Your actions are only making your situation worse, and you empower the workings of self-sabotage. The Condition of our Heart determines our Faithfulness and Righteousness unto God and has a major impact on our decisions and choices in Life. When the Light of God fills your Heart then you will be guided to live your Truths, which is having the ability to live according to your Divine Nature, which is the Likeness of God.
THE HEART IS ESSENTIAL
The Heart represents Love, Compassion and Healing and what dwells in our heart will determine the quality of your Character for the entire body. The Heart is like the Engine for the body and must be cared for and treated as a priority, so that it may bloom, flourish and thrive. Otherwise, you won't be able to perform at your best but will lack emotions, passion and drive. Just like if the engine in your vehicle is not working, then you can't go anywhere and if it needs maintenance, it won't work properly. Likewise, when you harbor Anger, Frustration, Bitterness, Unforgiveness, Hatred, Jealousy or Rage in your heart, it is not capable of functioning properly. Allowing these behaviors to occupy your heart space will only destroy you in the long run. Therefore, these ways of behaving must be uprooted from your heart, that you may be able to live a more balanced life. There's a time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted. If you are holding things in your heart that's causing havoc for you, then it's time to pluck up and plant seeds that will add energy, spirit, passion, life and liveliness to your Heart and Soul.
THE HEALTHY HEART
When Your Heart is Healthy:
Your Heart Center will be Wide Open
You're Able to Feel Love All the Time
Access the Wisdom of the Heart
Follow The Guidance of the Heart
You will Exercise Self-Love
Receive and Give Love
Allow Love to Flow Freely
Forgive Self and Others
Live in Harmony with your Whole Being
Releases Resentment, Hurts, Pain, ETC
Show Acceptance to All Things
Consciously Choose Love Every Day
Show Kindness, Compassion to Self and Others
THE UNHEALTHY HEART
When Your Heart is Unhealthy:
Your Heart will be Emotionally Closed
You will have Fear of Closeness
Fear of Betrayal
You will Lack Self-Love
Negatively Towards Self and Others
Anti-social, Withdrawn
Overly Critical of Others
Codependent, Displaying Loneliness
Poor Boundaries
Holding Grudges
Jealousy, Coldness, Heartless
Insensitive, Uncaring, Unfriendly
Unkind, Unsympathetic, Unloving
If you are not living from your Heart Space, then that is an indication that you are disconnected from God and have yet to return unto him. If you don't make efforts to heal your heart, then you will eventually destroy yourself and everything around you. The lack of love in the heart is the reason why we afflict and hurt others as well as ourselves.
~~The Parable of the Sower ~ ~
Matthew 13:3-8
Some seeds fell by the Way Side, and the fowls came and devoured them up.
Some fell upon Stony Places, where they had not much earth and they sprung up, because they had no deepness of earth: When the sun was up, they were scorched because they had no root and they withered away.
Some fell Among Thorns and the thorns sprung up and choked them.
But other fell into Good Ground, and brought forth fruit, some a hundredfold, some sixtyfold, some thirtyfold.
The Parable of the Sower is a Metaphor that demonstrates four types of Hearts; it indicates that all the seeds fell, meaning that they were once positioned at a higher place, but circumstances caused them to descend to a lower state. Furthermore, signifying that the deeds sown caused them to fall under Judgement and Condemnation before God. The places where the seeds fell, describes the Condition of the Heart, which ultimately determines the type of crop that sprung forth. When the seed sprouted not all produced fruit that was pleasing unto God. However, they equally had a chance to amend their ways but chose to continue in their own way; making themselves vulnerable to be overcome by unclean spirits, which led to grief, ruin and even death. This rebellion clouded their judgement to do what was right and relinquishing their strength to rise from that fallen state. Ultimately, many missed out on their opportunity for Redemption and the partaking of their Heavenly Blessings. On the other hand, those who heeded to God's Instructions and Warnings received Grace to ascend to a higher state of Consciousness because the seeds were planted into good ground and brought forth acceptable fruit. So, we will find out what happened after the seeds were planted and the kind of Heart that the seeds had been planted into; also, determine what caused the crop to produce deeds of disgrace, dishonor, trickery, manipulation, corruption, deceit, impurity, unrighteousness, perversion, immorality, greed, lust, evilness, wickedness and the list goes on and on.
This Parable pertains to the seeds that you have sown on your Journey which is based upon the Condition of your Heart; the state of your heart determines how you treat others, and in some cases, you wounded and hurt others. In addition, you knew that you were wrong and that your deeds were UNGODLY, yet you were persistent in your endeavors with No Regard for your Fellow Brother/Sister or God.
'THE WAY SIDE'
Those who chose to walk upon this path, has a preconceived mindset that causes you to reject the truth and walk in disobedience. Their heart is corrupt, empty, void of light, who are conditioned in a way of thinking, feelings and decision making, which is contrary to the righteousness of God. Their hearts and conscience have been seared that they take pleasure in hurting others; they are the snakes that presents themselves as a friend, the one who hurts while pretending to be helping. They present themselves as light but walk in darkness; they are empty in spirit but are full of wickedness and teaches others the path of darkness. Those who followed this path, were most likely raised in this way from a young child. It was a path chosen for them by a parent or someone who had great influence.
'THE STONY PLACES'
"YOU HAVE FORSAKEN THE RIGHT WAY AND ARE GONE ASTRAY FOLLOWING THE WAY OF BALAAM, THE SON OF BOSOR, WHO LOVED THE WAGES OF UNRIGHTEOUSNESS." (2 Peter 2:15)
These are the ones who had the truth planted within your hearts at a young age. However, before you could grow to maturity, you were misguided by someone who you trusted causing what was planted to be dried up before it could take root. This caused a shift to your path, setting you on a road that was ungodly, to walk as a cripple before God; lacking understanding, wisdom, making unwise choices, affecting your thoughts and actions. The wrong seeds were planted and needed to be plucked up. However, you chose to continue upon a path that was displeasing to God because you felt obligated to others. Your persistent efforts brought unto you chaos, anxiety, weariness and restlessness.
'FALLEN AMONG THORNS'
Those who walked this path, suffered from childhood issues. You harbored heartbreak, jealousy, hatred and refused to release these issues causing your heart to become hardened, having no light and showing no love. You consistently hurt others, doing whatever it took to get your way regardless of the pain you caused. You caused hardship, suffocation and destruction. You hindered the success of others only to have it reaped upon yourself, Due to your determined efforts to go your own way, acting in unrestrained ways, the spirit forces had to intervene and stop you. You had become out of control trying to dig ditches for others that you entrapped yourself. You brought, turmoil, confusion and upheavals in your life because you disregarded the warnings of God. All because you were unhappy with yourself and lacked Self-Love.
'THE GOOD GROUND'
"A GOOD MAN OUT OF THE GOOD TREASURE OF HIS HEART BRINGS FORTH THAT WHICH IS GOOD."
(Luke 6:45)
The other seeds fell on good ground and brought forth fruit, some a hundred-fold, some sixty-fold and some thirty-fold. These are the ones who lived their life in a way that pleases God; learning, growing, understanding, walking in wisdom, making wise choices and producing good fruit. Their life is evidence that they live from their heart; they walk in the ways of God and are not easily influenced by the world or wrong doings. Therefore, they have found favor with God; they don't profess to be perfect but are sincere and real in their hearts.
MATTERS OF THE HEART
This next Section is written in Observation of "Valentine's Day" and will consist of "Spoken Words" concerning Love which demonstrates what Love is and what Love is NOT! I will also include a selection of some Old School R & B Songs, perhaps they will stir up some good memories and make your Heart Merry. Now, I know that the celebration of this Holiday is supposed to be about Love and Joy; however, sometimes it's a reminder of a "Broken Heart, a Former Love that you Lost, the Love that's Missing from your Life or the Dumb Fight you had with your Spouse the night before. Therefore, I will be discussing a Range of Matters concerning Love and the Heart; I will be discussing the "The Three Types of Love, The Broken Heart, Healing the Broken Heart and My Love Story." Enjoy!!!
THE THREE TYPES OF LOVE
The three 'Types' of Love are Agape, Eros and Philia:
The Agape Love is the Love of God in action; it is a Love that is Flawless, Undiluted and Spiritual and it is the Highest form of expression of Love; To show affection, to be caring, have compassion, to be friendly, helpful, thoughtfulness, generosity, unselfishness and brotherly love. In essence it means to Genuinely Care.
The Eros Love is the Romantic and Intimate Love that is formed between two People with a Strong Energetic Heart Connection; a Love that is filled with Passion, Deep Feelings, Emotions and Desire.
The Philia Love is the Family and Friendship Love; The Family Love is a Love that's Strong and Solid when it comes to Support, Security, Protection and Safety. It is a Love of Bonding, Sticking Together, the Glue that holds together the Home and the Community. It is a Love of Comfort that implies that I'm always here for you and will never forsake you. The Friendship Love is a Love that feels like Family but is not blood related. However, you can always count on them to be there because they carry that Bond in their Heart like Family. Sometimes we classify people as friends and they are not; they are simple acquaintances, so know the difference.
Although, I have given you the descriptions of the Three Types of Love, the reality is this: Agape rarely exists because we are living in a time where People are Selfish, Uncaring and Cold Hearted. Eros is almost non-existing because infidelity has taking over Marriages and Romantic Relationships. People have no Integrity; they lack Honesty and are not Trustworthy. Families are more divided than ever; instead of sticking together they are competing with each other and are destroying one another behind each other's back. Those that are True Friends have proven to be closer than their own Family.
"This know also, that in the Last Days, Perilous time shall come. For men shall be Lovers of Their Own Selves, Covetous, Boasters, Proud, Blasphemers, Disobedient to Parents, Unthankful, Unholy, Without Natural Affection, Trucebreakers, False Accusers Incontinent, Fierce, Despisers of Those That Are Good, Traitor, Heady, High-minded, Lovers of Pleasures, More Than Lovers of God; Who Have a Form of Godliness But Deny the Power Thereof: From Such Turn Away." (2 Peter 3: 1-5)
Now, if God is tellings us to turn away from those who practice such behaviors, then what do you think God has done? So, if he doesn't want us to tolerate these conducts, why would he?
So, These Are The Days Of Our Lives!
"AGAPE LOVE"
THE GODLY AND UNIVERSAL LOVE
The Agape Love is the Godly Universal Love, that is Pure and Divine. It is not based upon conditions but is freely given to all of Humanity and likewise we are to freely demonstrate Love to one another. The Origin of this type of Love is God himself for God is Love. It is the Love that God extends unto us even when we are undeserving; the Love that is covered under his Grace and Mercy. God teaches us how to love one another, for he says to Love him with all our heart and to Love each other as we love ourselves. With that being said, if we don't have Self- Love then we are incapable of Loving one another. Agape Love is not that of words alone but according to our actions and deeds and is determined by how we treat one another. It's the type of love that when you see a homeless person on the street that you have compassion and desires to help. I know that some people run scams on the street corners to raise money but it's not up to you to determine if they are actually in need or just pretending. If they are scamming God will handle them, just like you don't know if that Preacher behind the Pulpit is scamming but you still give your money and faithfully.
Or perhaps you have a co-worker who is recently divorced and is struggling to raise her three young children. You have a stable job with good pay, and you are doing pretty well for yourself. Actually, you have more than enough; Agape would cause you to reach out and help her and with no ulterior motive. There's a man in the Bible that had become increased in his goods. In other words, he is Rich, so he sits back and admires his success. Realizing that he has so much that he has no more room to add more. So, he gets a bright idea to tear down his smaller barn and build a much bigger one; but God reprimands him and says, "Oh Fool, this night your Soul will be required of you, then who will all this belong to?" God was not pleased with his attitude because he displayed selfishness; Agape would have told him to give unto the poor, but he was self-centered, uncaring and consumed by greed.
"People draw near unto me with their mouth and honor me with their lips; but their Heart is far from me."
(Matthew 15:8)
"Let us not Love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth."
(1 John 3:18)
"He that does not Love, does not know God, for God is Love."
(1John 4:8)
Sweet Love
Song By: The Commodores
"EROS LOVE"
THE ROMANTIC LOVE
Usually when two people come together to form a Relationship, it's because both parties are interested in forming a Romantic Partnership, which sometimes lead to marriage. Then there's the couple where one of the parties is not committed to putting in the necessary work to build the relationship; really, he or she is looking for a free ride, with no intentions on bringing much to the table or they may just want to have a good time, yet leading you on as if they want more. Nevertheless, there's no foundation to build anything here because they're not on the same wave; most like it won't last long and if it does it will not be a healthy balanced relationship.
So, we have a couple who has been dating for a couple of years and now they have decided to take things to the next level so, they get married. When two people are serious about building a future together, then there are some principles and guidelines that needs to be taken into account, that they may be able to build a Successful Partnership. First of all, you should enter the marriage as equal partners with a mindset to function as One Heart, have mutual respect and have intentions to be Truthful, Honest and Faithful to each other. There should be an even reciprocation of the Love you give and receive, with each giving 100% of themselves. Therefore, the Love you express for each other should mirror one another, reflecting an equal give and take. What you desire from your spouse, you should be equally ready to return and shouldn't expect them to do something that you're not willing to do.
Love is a Sacred energy and should be treated as such and should never be taken for granted. Communication, Trust and Understanding are "Key Elements" for building a Strong and Solid Union. If there are disagreements, then they should be discussed respectfully and not screaming and yelling at each other. However, my honest opinion regarding arguments and disagreements is, there should never be a reason for them to occur in the first place. There is no reason why two People who profess to Love one another, to not be able to peacefully come to a mutual agreement without getting angry or upset. Chaos enters a relationship when individuals are immature regarding Love and they don't Honor, Respect or Value the Union they have established. Also, you shouldn't try to control your spouse or use abusive and manipulative means to get your point across. You shouldn't threaten your mate with ultimatums by displaying a, "It's your Way or the Highway " Attitude.
Also, Physical abuse should never be tolerated from either Partner and in most cases, it is the Woman that's being abused; whether its mental, emotional, verbal or physical, it is all abuse because it Hurts. When a man abuses his wife, he destroys her Heart and whether he realizes it or not, he's destroying himself as well because their Hearts exist as One. After prolonged abuse her Heart eventually collapses from brokenness, and she has nothing left within herself to give. Then you still want her to get excited in the bedroom; put food on the table, run your errands, wash your clothes, take care of the children and do it all with a Smile. Truthfully, at this point, there's nothing to smile about because all the Joy is gone; you have destroyed her heart and made her lifeless on the inside. She may not say anything, but she now lives in silent torment; wishing she could just die or preferably you, she just wants to be free.
Love is about feelings, so how you make your Spouse feel on the inside determines if you truly love him or her. Are your words Kind, Considerate, Warm and Gentle? Do you feel Special, Admired, Cherished and Appreciated? Does he or she make you feel like a King or Queen or the Best Thing since Sliced Bread? Or do you feel Unloved, Undesired, Alone, Neglected and being taken for granted? These Feelings Matters, because what you're feeling on the inside permeates throughout your entire being and causes your Mind, Heart and Soul to become consumed with Grief and eventually reflects outwardly; this is the part of yourself that you will display to others unless you conceal it and especially when you are feeling unloved. In rare cases the Man suffers from the abuse, like I said rare, but it does happen. Some Women see their husbands as weak because he may be kindhearted, easy going, patient, tolerant and ain't clucking her, upside the head; because of their mild demeanor, they end up taking them for granted, disrespecting and mistreating them. Women, men have hearts too and can be dwelling in the same house with you yet suffering from a broken heart. So, if your husband is good to you then show your appreciation, treat him with respect and honor.
Either way if you are abusing your Spouse, then there is something wrong with you; I'm not saying from a crazy standpoint, although could be, but I'm referring to your Heart. There is something buried deep in your Heart that's limiting your ability to Love; you may know what it is or you may not, but you need to get to the root cause of why you hurt the person you claim that you Love. So, look within, confront those issues, release them, that you may be healed and your Heart set free; the condition of your Heart will determine how you treat your Spouse. So, if you are abusing your Spouse then that is not an act of Love and if you choose to remain in a relationship where you are being abused, then that is not an expression of Self-Love but a lack thereof.
A Marriage should be filled with Love, Romance, Lots of Laughter, Joy, Happiness, Excitement, Good and Fun Times. A Strong Marriage can only be formed and sustained when both Parties are Committed and Determined to make it work at all costs through a Heart of Selflessness. A Wholesome and Healthy Marriage is attainable, as well as sustainable, but your Love for each other will be tested; Love is not Love until it has been Tested and Proven. Life is too short to be unhappy, and it goes by fast; before you know it, you're old with a head full of gray hair and sad, sitting around regretting that you didn't make different choices. Once we lose those years, we can't get them back, so make sure you're living your life to the fullest.
When two People truly Love each other, they don't allow anything to tarnish what they are trying to build. They Love each other too much to hurt the other for they respect the Sacredness they share. They view their Union as something Special and Worthy to be Cherished as such and the Energy you share is Precious and is that of Healing, Beauty, Joy and Bliss; It is a Love that Burns with Fire, Passion and Enthusiasm, wanting more and more and can't get enough of each other. The time that you spend with each shouldn't feel forced or like you're making a sacrifice because you rather be hanging out with your friends; so, you make the accommodations to fit them in for peace's sake. Instead, time with your Spouse should be treated as, there is nothing else you would rather be doing than to spend time with him or her. Nothing or no one should come before your Spouse; they should be your Best Friend, Confidant and Support. You should be able to talk to them about anything and no Secrets between the two of you. In conclusion, keep others out of your Relationship, never discuss what's going on in your home and don't be so trusting, protect your Marriage.
Sometimes you may find yourself in a Romantic Relationship with someone who's not fully committed but they act like they are and you clearly see the signs, but you ignore them because, "You don't want to be alone." If you find yourself in a Relationship such as this, then they have an ulterior motive that benefits them. They're not bringing nothing to the table, yet you're all in and Playing Wifey because he talks a good game and you think his intentions are good. So, we have two people here who meets at a Birthday Party (Sherry and Kerry) and they exchange cell numbers. The following weekend he takes her out, wines and dines her at this upscale Fancy Restaurant; afterwards, she goes bragging to all her friends about the expensive meal she ate, the nice car he drives, how fine he is, the big house he told her about and how he treated her like a Queen. So, she is now on Cloud 9, and is persuaded in her mind that she has found Mr. Right; especially since their names rhymes so, she is convinced that, for sure that is a sign and that they were meant to cross paths.
However, what she doesn't know is that the house he told her about belongs to his Mama, he was driving his brother's car, and the money he spent on her was a loan he got from his brother. Normally, his brother would not allow him to drive his car and certainly not lend him no money. He is that family member that won't keep no job and makes money hustling doing odd jobs; he can't be trusted in your house unless you've got both eyes on him at all times. When he comes around things have a way of coming up missing because he will take anything that's not nailed down. His favorite line is "Let me hold something", because he ain't never got no money. The only reason why his brother loaned him money and allowed him to drive his car is because he lied to him; he told him that he had just gotten hired as a Shift Manager at this new Factory Warehouse. So, he asked if he could use his other vehicle to attend the Day One Orientation for new hires, but would need to keep it overnight since the Job was out of town; so he did and loaned him some money so that he could buy him some nice slacks and shirts because he wanted to dress nice for his Manager position.
After a week passes, Sherry inquires of him, why is it that she hasn't seen him and he tells her that his car is in the Shop; and she responds, "Well I would have come to pick you up," So, he says, "You can pick me up now if you don't mind." So, she jumps up right away and picks him up and does so every evening afterwards, then takes him back to his house. Then one night she didn't feel like getting up, plus it was the wintertime and it was very cold. So, she asks him if he wants to stay overnight and he gladly accepts; the next morning she drops him off at home so that his co-worker can pick him up for work. At least that's the lie he tells her; so, every evening she is picking him up and dropping him back off in the mornings on her way to work. So, one evening she makes a suggestion for him to have his co-worker pick him up from her house; then he wouldn't have to get up so early. Sherry has to be at work at 5:00 but Kerry doesn't have to be at work until 7:00; so, he pretends to call his mysterious co-worker and by-golly, he doesn't mind at all. So, it's been one month and Kerry has practically moved in and his Plan is going just the way he imagined it would.
Sherry is enjoying spending this time with him and is fine with him staying there. Why? Because he makes her feel very Special and he is fulfilling all of her emotional needs. Like I said feelings matters, but in this case, she doesn't realize that he is a Con and a professional one at that because he is good at what he does. Sherry is only 42, has a nice four-bedroom home, been divorced for three years and lives alone because her children are now grown. However, she does want to be married again but just haven't met the right guy. She has a good paying job as a Head Nurse at the local Hospital, and she recently purchased a new car. Overall, she is doing very well and to fall in love again would be what completes her world and she's thinks that finally things are about to turn around for her. However, in this case, she has walked blindly into a trap because, there is something else that she is not aware of; it wasn't no accident that she met Kerry at the party. It was a plot set up by his friend that works with Sherry because she is known for being naive and saw her as an easy target to get over on. So, his plan is to Romance her, then get her to fall heads over heels in love with him; then eventually talk about marriage but with no real intentions to do so. He believes that if she thinks that they will eventually get married that she would allow him to move into her house; and if he play his cards right, she'll be taking care of him.
So, she heads off to work each morning and guess what? He's at the house just chilling and eating up all the food. Three more months passes and everything appears to be going just fine; then one day, he tells her that his co-worker is sick and is not going to work so he doesn't have a way to get there. Then Sherry asks him how much longer before his car will be fixed? He tells her that the mechanic told him that the part he needs was no longer being manufactured because it is a foreign vehicle and the company that makes the part is no longer in business. So, the mechanic offered to buy it from him because he can use the parts; then she asks him what he did with the money? He tells her that he used it to pay off some bills because when they get married, he doesn't want any unnecessary debts. She was so impressed that he was thinking about the well-being of their future together. So, she offers to finance him a car since they're talking about marriage anyway; again, his plan is working just perfect and he has no intentions on getting married.
Her friends try to warn her that she is moving way too fast, but she completely ignores them. Eight months later and Sherry is sending out wedding invitations; it's been a little over a year, and Sherry has met the man of her dreams, so she thinks. Kerry has requested that he hand delivers his invitations to his family and friends because he sees them all the time. Which is another lie because he has burnt that bridge with his family and his oldest brother was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt because he thought he was making a change. But since he never paid back the $300 dollars he borrowed and had an accident in his car and never said a word, he too has cut him off. So, the wedding is three months away and now Kerry doesn't know how he's gonna get out it and yet stay in her good graces; so, he's wondering if he should just go along with it and just continue doing what he's doing because nothing will change but her last name. Afterall, she will still be taking care of him and so he really has nothing to lose. She agreed to allow him to continue to pay off his debts and she would pay all the bills. However, he's not paying off any bills because he doesn't even have a job. She doesn't have a problem with it because she was paying them before they met so it's no big deal to her.
In the meanwhile, her friends are telling her that he is just using her and taking her kindness for granted but she feels that as long as she is happy it doesn't matter what they think about her man. In her eyes he's the 'King of the Hill' and a modern-day 'Romeo'. So, Kerry's plan has been working out very smoothly because she doesn't have a clue that he is just using her and her friends can see it, but she is in denial. Her family is happy for her because she doesn't tell them the truth behind her "Cinderella Romance." They are just glad that she got out that first marriage because he was Abusive, a Lier and a Cheater. Two months passes by and they are making plans to get married with a weeks' vacation in Hawaii already paid for. So, Sherry and her Sister is running around making sure that everything is lined up with only three weeks remaining for their Big Day and she is so excited.
A week later and Sherry is at work, but she is not feeling well so she decides to only work half a day; she calls Kerry to let him know that she will be heading home early but he doesn't answer. She tries reaching him again once she gets in the car but still no answer. Twenty minutes later she pulls up to her house and in the driveway, there are three cars parked; Kerry's car and two more which she recognizes one of them, it belongs to her co-worker who is the same guy that introduced them at the Party. She is very agitated because she can't even park in her own driveway but has to park on the street. She begins to walk towards the porch, and she hears the music playing very loudly. So, she turns the doorknob and walks in; Kerry is sitting in a chair with a woman on his lap, which happens to be one of her friends; which explains why she never had much of an opinion when her other friends talked about Kerry. He is so shocked when he looks and sees her face, he jumps up so quick that the woman falls to the floor; he didn't see her walk through the door because he was smooching on her neck. There are also two more women and two guys in the living room, in which one is her co-worker; they got beer bottles everywhere, trash lying around and one of the guys is holding a blunt in midair, that he was about to pass when he saw her come in. Sherry charged at the woman who was supposed to be her friend and started punching her in the head. The other four runs out the door and Kerry just standing there looking dumbfounded, but he eventually pulls Sherry of the woman because she is beating her like crazy.
Sherry tells both of them to get out of her house and Kerry goes to pick up the car keys, but she grabs them and says, "I pay the Note, this is my car; GET OUT AND LOSE MY NUMBER!" She calls her Sister, crying and upset but she can't make out anything that she is saying. So, she rushes over to the house to find out what is going on. Sherry tells her everything and she ends up spending the night because she won't stop crying and she didn't want to leave her alone in that condition. A week later and Sherry cancels the wedding and she and her Sister leaves for Hawaii; she meets a Lawyer named Samuel while she is there but is hesitant about giving him any time because of how Kerry deceived her. However, her Sister persuaded her to get to know him; she continues to talk to him after she returns back home. A Year later Samuel moves his Practice to the hometown where she lives and buys a half of million-dollar house on some private property where there is not another home in sight for miles. Six months later he proposes to her, and she accepts; after she completes the sale of her house they return to Hawaii and have a private ceremony. They stayed in Hawaii for a whole month before returning back home.
Three years has passed by, and Sherry is finally happy; she doesn't have to work anymore, and she is about to have a baby. Her life is finally complete because she knows that she has True Love this time because Samuel Loves, Cherishes and Adores her. She ran into one of her friends and found out that Kerry had just gotten out of the hospital because the woman he was staying with beat him up with a baseball bat for having another woman in her house. Sherry acknowledges that Kerry was not right for her, and she knew it but just didn't want to be alone but now she has learned that she has to Love herself more, rather than to settle for a piece of a man.
It is best to be alone if the best that you can do is be with someone who doesn't want to commit and plays games with your feelings, emotions and breaks your heart. Self-Love is Priceless but Lies and Betrayal can cost you unnecessary hurt, Pain and Heartache!
"You and Me"
Song By: Rockie Robbins
"PHILIA"
THE FAMILY AND FRIENDSHIP LOVE
When I initially began writing the Family section, I had come up with a variety of words that describes what it means to be a family such as Love, Unity, Strength, Bonding, Support and Structure. However, I couldn't seem to make them connect to form what I wanted to say, which was to paint the Beauty of what a Family is supposed to represent.
So, I decided to look into the Bible and find out when was the first time that the word Family was stated and this is the scripture it referenced:
"I will set my face against the man, and his family and all that go whoring after Molech to commit whoredom with him and they will be cut off from among their people." (Leviticus 20:5)
Molech was the King of the Ammonites who required that the people sacrifice their children by fire. This was a practice that God detested, hated and regarded with disgust and referred to it as inhuman and idolatrous. So, God instructed Moses to speak to Israelites and say, "Whosoever give any of their seed unto Molech, shall surely be put to death, because you defile my Sanctuary and Profane my Holy Name."
Further studies into the meaning of Family indicates and relates to "A House, To Build, To Establish and The Father:" The Father whom God has positioned as the Head of the Family and is a replicate of the Heavenly Father, our Creator. The one who represents as the leading light for his family, who inspires and influences his family the right way. The father is the upholder of the family, who supports, defends the path that he has led the family to follow. He is the sustainer, maintainer and preserver of his family. However, if he has chosen to lead his family in the path of darkness, then he has chosen to inspire and influence his family in the way of darkness because to him it is the right way. Likewise, he supports and defends his family by being the sustainer, maintainer and preserver to do that which is contrary to the ways of God. He is then become as the creator of the family and has caused them to commit Spiritual Adultery and be unfaithful against God.
This takes us to another word that's rooted in Family, which is "Abrade" and it means to strip away, to wear down, to be down in spirit, to irritate, to corrode and to eat away at. When combining these words, they mean to destroy, damage and to weaken, which occurs slowly and gradually, but progressively and is certain to become worse over a period of time.
The next word that's rooted in Family is "To Sweep Bare and To Be Bare: "
(To Be Bare) means be naked, unclothed, exposed, uncovered, unveiled and revealed. The combining of these words means to make known, to publish and to broadcast.
(To Sweep Bare) means to clean, to remove, to expel, to eliminate and to get rid of. The combining of these words means to abolish, to banish and to terminate.
So, what God is saying is that the Standards and Values that he has set up for the Family to be built upon has been compromised, tainted, flawed and corrupted. Therefore, God is Angry, because you willing disobeyed him and went against his ordinances, and when you were rebuked, you refused to correct your ways. That is why God wouldn't allow me to paint this pretty picture of what Family is because it is not the true portrayal of what the family has become. The family is not positioned before God to receive praise, compliment or to be commended. For your conduct, behavior and actions are disrespectful, ungodly, sacrilegious and it does not honor him. You have violated and desecrated his Sanctuary which is sacred and holy, causing spoil and ruin.
The Role of the Father is to nurture, anchor, comfort, help, assist and provide physical and mental support; to build, to establish and to lead his Family in the ways of righteousness. But instead, you have caused your children to pass through the fire, to wail and to cry; causing them to be connected and linked to darkness. Practices that you instilled in them since birth, came to be deeply rooted and ingrained within them that they acquire a path that dishonors God. You have caused them to be separated from God, unsound, faithless, flawed, distorted, defective, deceitful and unacceptable unto God. You have corrupted, stripped, perverted, shattered, damaged and destroyed their Souls. You have made them to be as poison unto their own selves as well as unto their offspring. The venom that you have deposited into them; they now pass on to their children.
But the buck stops here and now, because God has put an end to this system of practicing. He forbids it to continue, for these ungodly deeds have consumed and broken down the Family Structure. He will cause a global distribution by television, radio, internet and all forms of communication through the air ways. This information will become visible and manifested; to be made clear, plain and easily perceived and understood. The Fire of Molech is the fire that should never exist between a Parent and Child and that's all I'm going to say regarding this. For I have already spoken regarding this issue many times before. Just know and understand that God is furious because you refused to amend your ways after you were rebuked! PERIOD!
It takes Families to build up a community, a city, a state and ultimately the foundations in which our Country is established upon. How each family is built will determine what kind of world we will live in because each family represents a building block which makes up the quality of our existence as One Nation. Therefore, when we set out to build a Country without God, we are setting ourselves up for failure and doom. For God is the main source and sustainer of our Life and without him we can't even exist; all that we seek to accomplish will be sought in vain because it will all amount to nothing. Excluding God will eventually cause our lives to crumble and be in ruin; because we will be shallow and empty with no substance of vitality existing within.
Pharaoh made the Israelites to build his city, making bricks without straw and why is that? Because he wanted to make it difficult for them to meet their tally; now they would have to work twice as hard because the straw was the support for the bricks to form easily and required less mixture. Eliminating the straw meant more time spent preparing their mixture and the reduction in the quality of the bricks; for now, the bricks will be hollow and empty in the middle causing the bricks to break easily. Then that would mean that more bricks will be required to be remade. Pharaoh made this decree after Moses began speaking with them regarding God's Promise to deliver them; so, he wanted to discourage them, take away their confidence, expectations and hopefulness. Just as the straw served as materials to help form the bricks and give them solidity; God is that ingredient that we just can't live without, for he is the living spirit, the essence of our makeup and the very breath that we breathe.
The current condition of our Nation is the end result of building our Families without God. A family that builds without God cannot stand; so if you decide to build a Nation without God then We will not prosper, for the Foundation is unstable, unsupported, and unsustainable for God has been omitted. Therefore, whatsoever is constructed will give rise to Misfortune, Chaos, Adversities, Confusion and Division. Fashioning a World that is Ungodly, Unholy, Unrestrained, Unmoral, Full of Wickedness and Evil doings.
Now that it is clear, of the message that God wanted me to relate to you, I will share with you my opinion of how the Family should be constructed. Family means that you are joined together by your Bloodline, which signifies that "We Are One." Family is all about Love, Unity, Strength, Structure, Building, Bonding and Support. Family says, "I'm Here For You Through the Thick and The Thin." The Goal of the Family is to build that you may become Unified and Strong and Standing Together, as an Unshakable Force. To support and protect one another, not allowing anything or anyone to come between you, break up the bond or hurt one of you. In school when you bully someone who had ten other siblings attending there too; the whole clan be waiting for you after school. If you didn't know you found out that you just didn't mess with family.
There was a time when Family depended upon God, when things got rough; it was God that you looked to for Support, Comfort, Strength, Hope, Guidance, Instructions, Wisdom, Knowledge and the answer to your Prayers.
Its 1978, a time when family meant, spending time together, inside and outside; from eating dinner to making home movies, to playing cards, games, climbing trees, picking plumbs, going to the park or playing in the streets, skating, racing and playing, baseball, basketball, soccer, volleyball and football. The smaller kids making mud pies, cooking with leaves, playing hopscotch, hide and seek, shooting marbles and playing jacks and on Sundays they went to Church as a Family. In homes where the mother was the only parent, she didn't always attend with them, but she made sure they went. They didn't mind as long as mama gave them an offering so they could stop by the store to buy candy but save a nickel for Sunday School. If they went to one of them Churches that didn't have Sunday School, then they took a nap and went back home.
During my younger days most families lived in shotgun houses, except for a few homes within our neighborhood; these families were a more well-off and usually were two parents in the home. Otherwise, most of these homes were mothers with no fathers but many children. The houses were small, having one or two bedrooms and you could gain an extra bedroom by putting a sofa bed in the living room. The house is wide open and the only door in the house is the one to the bathroom; so, if you want privacy that's where you will have to go. Since the houses are so small, you spend a lot of time together; it's crowded but you make the best of it and have fun.
Times starts to get better and families upgrade their living styles and seeking homes that offer more privacy. So, now you have a much bigger house, and all your siblings have their own room with a door. Years passes and older siblings are moving out and starting their own families; the younger siblings are all in their teens and there are constant bickering and rivalry amongst them. Fighting over the bathroom, boys and girls; Who's, using mom's car? Who stole my bologna sandwich? Who left the empty milk jug in the fridge? Who used the last soap, deodorant, tissue or curl activator?
Then Everybody's grown, some are married, some dating and the rest are living the single life; some have children and some do not. They get together for Bar-B-Ques, Birthday Parties and other Holidays; eventually the turnups for the gatherings are getting fewer. Then everyone seems to be busy doing something else like working, enjoying their new friends, hobbies and building their own families. Some have been successful in the business world, and some have not; husbands are joining the boys' clubs, while the wives having their girl's night out. Meanwhile the older siblings are babysitting the younger ones. So, you've got kids raising kids and husbands and wives trying to outdo each other on "Who can make the other one miserable first?" It was a time of the electronics; the kids didn't play outside much because, now it was too hot, and most parents didn't force their kids to go out. The XBOX and PlayStation were the current trend and, on the weekends, kids played all day; forgetting to even take a bath but they ate plenty. On the weekdays they rushed through their homework just so that they could straight to the games.
Years continue to pass by, and everyone is at the Dinner Table engaging in their cell phone, but no one is talking to each other; even the small kids and toddlers know how to stroll and swipe to find what they're looking for. Now, that is if they still eat at the table as a Family and many times when the mama cooks, nobody's eating, because everyone is eating out or ordering in. Then she begins to feel useless because her whole life has been wrapped up into her family; now she trying to figure out who she is and what is it that she wants out of life now that she is almost 50 or do, she wants another baby? The Hubby is not around because he is going through a mid-life crisis, so he joins the local biker's club.
Many years pass by and the only time the siblings see each other is when they go to mama's house for Thanksgiving, Christmas and Mother's Day; if they have a known Father, then they may gather for Father's Day. Otherwise, if they do keep in touch, it's not genuine because they talk about one another behind each other's back.
Now, it's time for the Family Reunion and the siblings that grew up as a close-knit family has grown into strangers some bitter, some angry, some holding grudges, some jealous, and some you're just not that familiar with because you were so young, when they went to the military, off to college or married and moved away. You have separated so badly that you're introducing your spouses and kids to each other. You vow to keep in touch, but another five years pass by and the next time you see them is at your mama's funeral. Whether it's the thirst for success, busyness, childhood drama or just doesn't care; families have become separate and divided. Some have sided with your enemies in hopes to see you fail and that is not family. The division amongst family is common for many reasons but the Breakdown between God and Family began when people thought that they could build without God. Then you allowed this World's System to Separate you from God and Compromise your Family Value; many follow after the ways of the Heathens, turning their back on God to reject, deny, dishonor and disrespect him. The Creator, the One who loves you so much that your understanding couldn't begin to comprehend just how much. How do I know that God Loves you? Because the Love that I hold within my Heart didn't originate from me, so, it obviously comes from a Higher Source and that Source being our Heavenly Father and Creator. So, when I take into account of my expression of Love, I can only imagine how much God Loves us all.
Philia is also a Friendship Love, but it expresses itself as a Family type of Love: Jackie and Kim take lunch together because they work in the same department; Kim think that they are friends and talks highly of Jackie. However, Jackie talks about her when she takes her break with her smoking buddies. Kim finds out and is feeling betrayed; everyone you refer to as a 'Friend' is not and most times, they are just an acquaintance or an associate. So, Jackie is not a friend but a co-worker; know the difference. The friend is the one you can depend upon and sometimes, even when your family is not there; the one who will tell you the truth, even if it hurts, the one you can trust with your secrets, the one that attends all the family functions, the one who receives an invite before some of the family members do and the one that all the Aunties, Uncles and Cousins expects to see at the Family Reunions. The same ones who recognize when you have invited someone who pretends to be a friend; the elderly women looking at them with their glasses resting on their nose, they hesitantly speak to them and be watching them the whole time. You never have to question the motive of a True Friend and they are very rare.
"Unity"
Song By: The O'Jays
"THE BROKEN HEART"
The Broken Heart is just that, "A Broken Heart! A brokenness that occurs not only once but multiple times, over and over. Infidelity is not the only time someone gets their Heart Broken but for this Post, I will refer to Heartbreak that's due to Romantic reasons. The Heart is subject to being broken anytime you engage in a Romantic Relationship; the aftermath can be Painful, Destructive and Traumatic. Regardless, whether it's new love, early love, mid-term love or long-term love, when it comes to matters of the heart, it can be Hard. A Broken Heart can have devastating effects on an individual and some people never heal, recover and move on with their life; mainly because they have yet learned to love themselves and most likely suffers from low self-esteem and insecurities.
Some heartbreaks will leave you feeling like your Heart has been ripped into shreds; especially if you feel betrayed and most likely you will. This is common when you've been deceived by someone that you put your trust in and you thought would never hurt you.
They violated your Trust through Dishonesty, Infidelity or Deception and this betrayal causes your heart to be torn. The intensity of the Pain will depend upon how emotionally invested you are, so it will be different for each. The reason why the Heart gets repeatedly broken is because, when you leave a relationship where your heart has been hurt, you hurriedly jump right into another relationship. Often time because it's easier than dealing with the pain that you are experiencing; so, you think that the remedy to your heartache is to replace the individual. So, you move on, thinking out of sight equals out of mind; if this is someone that you were deeply involved with, then moving on is not always easy. So, your heart gets broken, then you meet someone new and they have a broken heart also; so, now you have two people trying to build a relationship with a broken foundation. Your heart is held together with scotch tape and his with duct tape, both are fragile, sensitive and an emotional wreck pretending like you've got it all together.
Therefore, your Heart is not in a Healthy state of condition, to be jumping into another relationship so quickly, but we do it anyway. However, you find yourself getting your heart broken once again and this time it's a Heart Break on top of a Heart Break. So, it's a vicious cycle that's getting you nowhere; until you decide to examine your Life to find out why is it that you consistently find yourself with a broken heart. Most broken hearts occur because of Infidelity; now you can't stop someone from being unfaithful, but you can be wiser regarding the type of people that you are allowing access to your heart. Also, take longer time in getting to know the other person before making a commitment and if you take these two into consideration, you lessen the chance of becoming hurt. In addition, everyone should not be allowed access to your heart; when it comes to Love, Intimacy and Romance, the Heart Space must be earned. Therefore, practice Self-Love and you won't sacrifice your heart to someone who is not deserving of you.
If you remain in a relationship where your Partner treats you poorly, disrespects and abuses your heart then you give them the permission to do so. You allow them to walk all over you like a door mat, you don't hear from them unless they need something. He tells you the same story, "Ah Babe, its gonna be different this time, I promise:" Then he MIA all over again, for another six months; he got you cooking dinner on holidays and then doesn't show up. When he finally does show up, it's with a lie, talking about his mama died, again. He forgot that he told you she died the year before, but he convinces you that he was referring to his step-mama. Then you crying to your friends saying, "I don't know why Bernie treats me this way." You're the reason why because he knows that regardless of what he does, you will be there; he repeatedly disappoints you, stand you up and breaks your heart because you allow him to.
If you are in a relationship where you are not valued and you have communicated how you feel; yet there is no change, then you need to examine your Self-Worth. Do you deserve the lack of respect, the hurt, pain or heartache? If you believe that you deserve better, then give yourself better; release and let go of everything that is causing you stress, grief, tension, sadness, sorrow, hurt, harm, pain and heartache. The root problem is that you never take the time to heal and establish heathy boundaries for yourself, where you become more observable of other people's actions. The red flags are always there but you ignore them when you should be more aware of what is transpiring between you and your partner. In some cases, the issues are staring you right in the face and literally. When you continually tolerate mistreatment from others, instead of exercising Self-Love, you're setting yourself up to be hurt every time.
Leave the Heartache behind and start building healthier relationships, that you can make memories with and not Heartbreak.
"Everybody Plays the Fool"
Song By: The Main Ingredient
"HEALING THE BROKEN HEART"
If you are currently going through a Heart Break, then Healing should be your main focus and priority; you tried your all to rectify the differences and concluded that it was definitely time to move on. Since, then you've been grieving, experiencing frustration, anger, hurt, pain and agony over this breakup; if you're ready to let all that go and Heal, then this is for you. If your Ex walks in right now and you start apologizing to him, knowing very well, he did you wrong; then you are not ready. On the other hand, if you met a guy three weeks ago and now you find out he's engaged to be married, Your Heart is not broken, you just got played and now your feelings are hurt, be more discerning and aware.
Healing and Recovering from a broken Heart is never easy, no matter how much you pretend to be unbothered; eventually you come face to face with denial and have to confront the pain you're running from. Sometimes, individuals have trouble moving on from heartbreak and even desire closure with the other party. You may not always get the closure, you may think you need or deserve; so, you may be waiting on something that will never arrive, prolonging the healing you need. Therefore, it is not to your benefit to have expectancy of closure; instead, it's best to focus on acceptance, forgiveness, letting go and healing. In order that healing may transpire, one must be fully open and receptive for the Healing to occur:
If you have made up your mind and heart that you are completely done and is ready to Heal, then stick with your decision; especially if the other party is repeating the offences. You say that you are tired and wants change; now is the time to start Valuing yourself, recognize your Worth and give yourself the Love that you haven't been able to receive from a mate. Be the love you seek, treat yourself the way you desire to be treated and never sacrifice Self-Love again. When you walk in Self-Love, you will immediately recognize when someone's actions are not coming from a sincere place.
Be okay with where you are and be accepting of everything that has occurred, which has brought you to your current situation. So, wherever we are in life is a result of the choices we've made. Therefore, you must be accepting of all things, regardless the role you may play in the breakdown of the relationship. Be willing to forgive the other party and anyone else that may be involved. Don't expect an apology or closure, if you receive either or both, then fine but don't allow the lack of to prevent you from receiving your healing. You might be tempted to contact your Ex but the objective is to move on so, those urges should be fought, that you may overcome. This may be difficult at first, but you must take control over your mindset. When thoughts and feelings fluctuate, then you find yourself yielding to those uncertainties. When you find yourself in situations that are completely out of your control and you've done everything you possibly can to bring change but still no results, then it will help to practice the Art of Detachment. It is a healthy way of coping with upheavals, difficulties and matters of the heart.
Practice living your life free from cravings and desires, which can be accomplished when you come to a place of 'Acceptance' regarding all your circumstances; expect nothing more or nothing less but accept things just as they are. You learn to live in a state of non-existence of the outside World. This is not about locking yourself in a cave and shutting the world out, but this is a matter of consciousness. This is the power of thoughts, the power of mind over matter, this is mental leveling, energetic shifting and taking full control over how your surroundings affect you. When you practice the art of detachment, then nothing affects you because you control how you respond and, in this case, you don't. This doesn't mean that nothing matters or doesn't have an impact on you; from time-to-time those hurtful things will surface, you embrace that moment, cry to release, then keep on moving.
Take full control over your life, Protect your Heart, Love yourself, Set goals and Pursue them: This is the time to get to know You, to expand your awareness, gain wisdom, knowledge, understanding and to learn more about yourself. If you've neglected to practice Self-Love, that will be a thing of the past because you will come to Respect Honor, Value and know your Self-Worth. Do those things, which bring you Joy, make you Laugh and make you Smile. Take this time to find out who you are, what you like, what you don't like, treat yourself to pampering, pamper your own self, take bubble baths with candles, drink some wine, listen to uplifting music, watch a movie, read a good novel, have fun, take up a new hobby, go dancing, go fishing, spend time in solitude, enjoy Nature, enjoy Water, enjoy the Sun, enjoy the Moon, enjoy the Air, enjoy the Rain, Reinvent, Rebuild, Rebirth, Relive, Be Happy and Enjoy Life. LIVE!!!
Know your Heart's Worth and start making people earn their way into your heart. The Standards you set for yourself will be the ones others will have to rise to. Be careful when meeting new people and when someone's presence causes you to feel uneasy or your energy shifts to a lower vibration, then that is a warning. Don't question, rationalize or try to make sense of the matter; just trust what you sense and feel and follow your inner guidance. Being aware and observative can prevent you from investing in commitments that could later lead to a Heart Break.
"Love It Away"
Song By: Ashford & Simpson
MY LOVE STORY
A true love story is when "LOVE SHOWS UP;" It says, "I am Here for You, I Support You and I Trust You. True Love does not revert when faced with adversity but forges through all obstacles to stand united in Heart. True Love is worn as a Garment of Praise, it is 'The Signature' of your True Identity; Love is the Light that fills your Heart, then ignites your entire being with an Illuminating Essence of Sunshine. Love can't be missed, it is an Obvious Asset, that can be Seen, Heard and Felt but never Doubted; for Love's representation of itself cannot be disputed. Love Walks, Talks and Lives its Truth, Love does not Waver, Change or Compromise. Love stands in the Integrity of its Essence, Flawless and Untainted.
True Love is not just about my ability to give and receive love but my ability to recognize a Genuine Love in another and seeing a heart that mirrors mines. I can give love effortlessly, but who is brave enough to return the love and match it equally? Who stands up while everybody else still sits? Who risks their own freedom to give liberty to another? When you're standing in the cold, when you're hungry, when you're sad, hurt and lonely. Who's gonna be the One to Show Up? True Love is a connection where the Soul and Heart of the two are intertwined into One Cosmic Energy. It is a Love that exists pass time and space with the capability to set Fire to the Course of Nature, Heaven and Earth.
It's a Love that says, "I'm All In, You Can Depend On Me and You Can Trust Me," Its a Love that's Scrutinized, Challenged, Tested and Proven to Endure the 'Test of Times'. It's about Connection, Spirituality, Sacrifice, Energy, Vibration, Frequency, Respect, Sharing, Caring, Laughter and Living. All these attributes are wrapped up in Love and Love is a Gift that should be Treasured. Love is God's Gift to the World, and nothing is more Valuable or Cherished than when Love Shows up for You.
It's a Love that says, "I See You, I, Understand You, I know You and I want You." A love that can look pass another's flaws and see a Kind Heart, a Caring Soul and Humble Spirit. A love that doesn't tries to fix you but accepts all aspects of who you are. A love that has captivated, captured and imprisoned my Heart that it no longer wonders if 'Home is where the Heart is' because in my heart Love has found Home. A love that likes what it beholds and loves what it wants. A love that looks beyond the outer appearances but adores the Inner Beauty that Radiates from within.
Snow White ate a poisonous apple given to her by a witch disguised as an old woman. She fell under the curse of the witch, which was a deep sleeping spell and the seven dwarfs were unable to awaken her. They mourned her then made preparations to bury her, but she was so beautiful that they could not, so they fashioned a coffin made of glass and gold, filled it with flowers and placed it deep in the forest, hoping that she would wake up. One day a Prince came to the forest because he had heard of her kindness and beauty, and when he saw her, he kissed her on her lips then bowed before her because he was very saddened by her death. Suddenly Snow White awakens, for the spell was broken. The Prince takes her to his Castle and they Lived Happily Ever After!
LOVE SHOWED UP!
Sleeping Beauty had fallen under a sleeping spell that had been placed upon her for a hundred years. When it came close for the hundred years to expire, the witch who had placed the spell surrounded the Castle's hedge with large thorn trees that no one could get to her. The whole property was boobie trapped because it was rumored that there were suitors who would attempt to set her free. Many tried and failed and some even died there. But there was one Prince who knew that Sleepy Beauty was his one True Love and was willing to fight, wage any battle or defeat any enemy to set her free. He knows that when he finds her that true happiness will find them both; for she is the girl of his dream and have fallen deeply in love with her. She was the most beautiful woman that he had ever set eyes upon and was relentless and determined to awaken her from the spell. The witch tried to turn his heart into stone so that he wouldn't care about her, but she was unsuccessful. Finally, the Prince got to her, kissed her, she awakens, they get married and Lived Happily Ever After. He destroyed every force between them and closed up the gap that kept them apart.
LOVE SHOWED UP!
Cinderella makes her appearance at the grand ball at the Palace, giving for the Prince; when she makes her entrance no one recognizes her because her transformation is astounding and the entire room falls silent. The Prince is startled when he sees her; he is mesmerized and captivated by her stunning beauty and aura. He grabs her by the hand, they leave the ball room and danced privately throughout the night; then Cinderella notices the time and leaves immediately, for she has to leave before midnight. The Prince runs after her but is unable to catch her but she loses one of her glass slippers and he picks it up. The Prince was in love and was determined to find out who the slipper belonged to; for he didn't even get her name during the short time they danced. He searched the city day and night, searching for her for he had found true love. After diligently searching, he found Cinderella, took her out of poverty and enslavement, married her and they Lived Happily Ever After.
LOVE SHOWED UP!
People cross our paths for many reasons, and none of which is by coincidence. Some come to help some come to hurt, some are real and some are fake. These people come and go and some you may wish to never see again. Then there are the few, the rare, the unique, the special, the one you can't seem to forget, the unforgettable. The unmatched, the extraordinary and the one whose second to none. The one with whom time is timeless, the night is nightless, empty is full, sadness is laughter and poor is rich. When I needed a friend, you were there, when I needed an ear, you listened, when I needed to cry you were a shoulder, when I was alone, you gave me comfort. The one who is there even, when I can't see, feel, hear or touch you; you're the breath in silence, the calm in the storm and the yang of my ying. When I was lost, you were lost, when I was found, you were found, when I rose up you rose up and when I dreamed, you were the weaver. You are Love, Light and Wisdom, your energy is kind, gentle and warm, it rejuvenates, heals and energizes me. You've been, brave, strong, courageous, loving and understanding. You are my Happy Ever After and You were there when I needed you the most.
LOVE SHOWED UP!
"Best Thing That Ever Happed"
Song By: Glady Knight & The Pips
"Love Jones"
Song By: Johnny "Guitar" Watson
THE PURE HEART
"BLESSED ARE THE PURE IN HEART FOR THEY SHALL SEE GOD." (Mathew 5:8)
The Pure Heart is the Heart of God: When your heart is pure, you become united in oneness with God and your life is hid in him. The pure heart is holy, righteous, true, uncontaminated, flawless, guiltless, sinless, innocent, genuine and caring, The Light of God purifies the heart and your character will be determined by how you walk, what you say and what you do. When your heart is pure, yes you will see God. You will see him working in your life, he will do for you what seems to be impossible, he will give you joy and peace when everything around you is in confusion. The more you seek after him the more you will also see him within yourself. Those who live upright, pure in heart will always be under God's protection and especially when you're unaware that danger is lurking.
"Heartlight"
Song By: Neil Diamond
"Who can say, I have made my heart clean, I am pure from sin?" (Proverbs 20:9)
Updated March 13, 2026
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